Monday, March 13, 2017

livid


I hope you'll forgive me, but today I'm taking a break from Monday Musings - don't worry it will be back next week - to have a bit of a rant. You see, I'm mad, disgusted and sickened and I want to share my story as a a warning for those of you who put yourself out there in the blogging world and social media. When I first decided to start blogging I prepared myself for the trolls, people who might say mean or hurtful things, but thankfully I've never really run into that the whole time I've been on this space. What I hadn't prepared myself for was for my images to be used on Pinterest in conjunction with pornography.

That's right, some sicko has pinned all the images from my blog where I'm wearing my rain boots and put them on a board featuring plus-size naked woman in lewd positions. Just mine, no other regular fully clothed women in rain boots. Just the naked images and me. Needless to say, I'm completely freaked. On another board I'm featured with sexualized women in rain boots and then my innocent images as well. Everything is dirty and sexual, with the exception of my pins.

I've reported and blocked this person, but the question I keep asking myself is why? I have a small blog with a small group of readers, what about me attracted the attention of a pervert? I dress modestly, I try to stay above board on this space, but it still happened to me. I'm angry at this person for taking something that I've created and making it dirty, I'm angry at myself for putting myself and my family at risk - though I never in a million years thought that something like this would happen.

I've mentioned my daughter's name on this blog, I've pretty much given a road map to where I live, a little googling would make it easy to find me. And as much as I'm pissed at this person, I'm just as angry at myself for making myself into a target. I'm erasing all mentions of my daughter's name on this blog and I'm not certain I will ever refer to her again on this space. I've removed my location, what I do for a living, etc. Though it's kind of like trying to put the horse back into the barn - too little too late, though I'm not sure what else to do.

Have any of you bloggers out there run into this situation? Maybe I'm overreacting, but right now I'm feeling a big dose of fear, a lot of angry and a prevailing sickness to my stomach. I pray that none of you run into my situation and caution you to protect yourself, as much possible these days online.

As much as a love my Hunters, I'm not sure I'm ever going to be comfortable posting them on here again. And that makes me mad too. People can be sick - this I know - but I want to do everything possible to protect myself and my family. I don't know the person who did this, it could be anyone. Maybe it's just a dirty fetish, maybe it's more. But I'm questioning if for the protection of myself and my family if I need to step away from blogging. Maybe not posting pictures of rain boots if enough, maybe block and reporting the person will stop it, but you don't know about people I worry it's too late?

23 comments:

  1. Oh. My. Gosh. I am so happy this is happening to you! How frustrating and infuriating! I always think this community is so amazing, but when things like this happen you realize that there are also really negative aspects to it. I hope that everything gets removed from Pinterest ASAP and that their support handles the issue well!

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    1. Pinterest hasn't blocked the user, but they've removed all my pins from one of his boards, but not the other, which is frustrating. The stuff on all his boards is really foul, so I'm amazed they haven't blocked the user, but all I can do at this point is keep filing complaints.

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  2. Major bummer, I guess the bright side is you found it. Pinterest has to really step up their monitoring, social media in general.

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    1. Yeah, thank goodness Pinterest notifies you when someone pins one of your pins, otherwise, I never would have caught it!

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  3. I'm so, so sorry this happened to you! I've been following along for a little bit, but haven't said much. I think 99% of the people online are amazing and then there are weirdos that do stuff like this. I would keep on wearing your boots and keep on showing your outfits. Anyone who goes to your blog will know that it isn't for this purpose. Your readers, including me, will be supportive of whatever you do!

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    1. While this person targeted me for whatever reason, hopefully it's just someone who has a thing for pictures of plus-size girls in rainboots and that's it, but you never know about people. I haven't been vigilant about keeping my location and such a secret on this blog, so I feel like I've exposed myself and my family to a potential nutter. I think that's what's worried me the most. I know anyone who reads this blog, or even clicked on a pin from his Pinterest page would really quickly figure out what this space is really all about. :)

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  4. Oh Erin I'm absolutely disgusted that some low life has used your photos in such a way and as an act of defiance I have changed my profile name. In the past when you have posted photos wearing your Hunter Wellingtons I have made comments complimenting you on how good you look and I for one will be very sorry if you stop posting such photos, don't let the b******s win and if necessary encrypt your photos so they cannot be downloaded and appear on other sites.
    Julie
    xoxo

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    1. That's a good idea to encrypt photos. However, at the moment, I like people being able to pin my outfits or ideas onto Pinterest, after all part of the reason I started this blog was to share everyday fashion ideas and hate to limit access to my photos. At least by blocking the user, he can no longer pin my content from Pinterest. So no encrypting for now, but it's definitely something to consider. Thanks for the advice!

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  5. Ugh, how yucky and scary! Makes me get a sick feeling for you...and also for having put that much out there myself. For the most part all of the connections via blogging and social media have been so positive, and I like being real with people, but perhaps it's a good reminder or wakeup call for me of the icky creepy mean people out there. I wish that didn't have to ruin it for us all though. So sorry you are going through this - it's so hard to know what the right approach is.

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    1. My experience on here has been overwhelmingly positive. Guess it takes one nutter to put a damper on things. I'm hoping the pinner is just into bigger girls in rainboots and not into me personally, but the idea that I've put my family at risk has me the most upset. You just never know about people...

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  6. I'm so sorry this happened to you! How sickening & terrifying. Your blog is such a bright spot in this crazy world and I hate that someone has hurt you in this way. Whatever you do to protect yourself and your family is understandable.

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    1. At this point, I plan to keep blogging. I truly love this space and hate to lose the connections I've made. However, I don't plan to use my family's real names or mention my exact location. And maybe no more rainboot photos since that seems to be a trigger.

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  7. Please contact your local police department- Sex crimes. The laws have changed. It is now against the law to post naked pictures of someone without their consent.

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    1. Hi Betty, I did contact my local police department and spoke to someone who handles cyber crimes. He said there wasn't much that could be done at this point, but to take screen shots of everything in case it escalates. Which I did. While the naked pictures weren't of me, I did report the other images and the user to Pinterest.

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  8. many many years ago, I had a website before their were blogs. I had a guestbook and some weirdo would post nasty pictures in the guestbook. I have no idea who they were but I removed all his comments and pictures, blocked him and then set it up where comments had to be seen by me first and couldn't be anon.

    I am so sorry this happened to you and please don't blame yourself. This isn't your fault. You didn't ask for this by putting yourself here. You have a right to be here without some perv taking advantage.

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    1. Ugh, why do people have to do stuff like that? It just takes one person to ruin something great for everyone. I'm glad you're still continuing your journey through tumblr!

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  9. deep breath. You've taken all measures you can to protect yourself. You might be afraid too little too late but it's better than nothing right? It sucks that someone takes something fun and innocent and twists it into something perverted and frightening.

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    1. Yeah, you can't control other people's actions. A hard lesson for me on how much to share on spaces like these!

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  10. This is terrible. I'm always worried something like this might happen, but I've never had it happen. Thinking of you!

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    1. Definitely one of those things that I never though would happen to me since I have a small blog. But I apparently tapped into something this guy is interested in - bigger girls in rainboots. Who would've thought that was a thing?

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  11. I'm just catching up on blog reading and am so sorry this happened! I can imagine how scary it felt especially with what feels like innocent information about yourself being out there. Hugs friend!

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    1. Awww thanks so much! I'm still going to blog, but be more mindful about what I put out there!

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